Tired of never having enough time to work on your side hustle, because you’re too busy stuck in your cubicle and all you can do spend the work day visualizing your future life?
After reading and listening to all of the personal growth books you’ve learned a lot, but for some reason you still aren’t signing clients consistently.
I’ve been there. It felt like every time I’d take a step or two forward, a set back surfaces.
Each week you show up consistently, and don’t see regular results – you start showing up a little less and less until you just take a break and try again a few days, weeks or even months later.
I’d like to introduce you to a little thing called “Upper Limits”, so called by Gay Hendricks, in his book The Big Leap.
Whenever you achieve something small, you subconsciously start to sabotage yourself… whomp whomp… and that’s where the excuses and negative questions come in:
Can I really do this?
I’m not nearly as put together as her, why would anyone want to work with me?
Who would ever be willing to pay me?
I’m not smart enough?
I’m not ready?
Aim I focusing on the wrong things?
So on and so forth. These questions will continue until you realize that that is your upper limit talking.
But I have some GREAT news! You can shatter that glass ceiling anytime you want! Hallelujah!
Start listening to your thoughts, and decide that they are just that – thoughts.
They can’t harm you, but they can debilitate your dreams of building a business, replacing your income and quitting your 9-5!
Recognize the thought, then choose to reject the lie (doubts aren’t truths yet, just lies we worry may come into existence), and replace it with a truth. If you’re really struggling to stop a negative thought in its tracks, stop and replace it with 5 truths, just for good measure.
Trust me, this gets easier over time, but in the beginning it’s good to start with simply recognizing them. I like to sort of chat back “Oh hey negative thought, that’s not actually true! But thanks for stopping by!” I kid you not, the more I did this the less those lies, negative thoughts and doubtful questions surfaced in my day to day.
Now while I’d love to rock the cosplay, I’m not actually Wonder Woman, so doubts still sneak right on in, but the more you work that belief muscle, trusting your purpose and following your gut, the stronger the muscle gets and the easier it is to catch the lies before they make themselves at home.
Over time, you’ll break through your upper limits, and hit new ones. This mindset work isn’t like passing an exam, once and done. It’s a lifetime commitment to live your best life and believe in becoming the highest version of yourself.
Say a girlfriend calls because she’s feeling down about not being pretty enough, good enough, or strong enough. Start speaking to yourself like you would her in that moment. Start believing you are worth of the life you want and choose to have faith that you not only were made for more, but can have it.
Xoxo Allison
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